Get the man you want

Every single woman, wants to know - how to attract the right man. I know when I was single, I was so sick of attracting 'losers' while waiting for the one to come along. My mum said to me the other day - you have to kiss a heap of toads to find your prince. And as always - she's right. I'm now with the man of my dreams. But how I got there is something I think is important. To attract the right kind of love you need to love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, then the love you give is needy love, given in an attempt to fill an inner emptiness. This was something that took me a long time to learn - but now I have, I understand it's importance.

To create an extraordinary relationship with anyone, you must first create an extraordinary relationship with yourself. When you feel great about who you are, when you have compassion for your shortcomings, and when your daily thoughts and actions are motivated by self-love, you send out an irresistible magnetic energy that is reflected by all those around you.

Determine What Satisfies You.

You have to be realistic and honest about the qualities you want in a man, if honesty is important or if his ability to treat you like a lady is a priority, then put that right at the top. You can then be clearer about who it is you're looking for and the places you might be able to find him.

Don’t judge a book by it’s cover.

Physical attraction is generally the first thing that captures men’s attention. But at the same time, if a woman is trying too hard, it can become more of a turnoff. If a woman looks really fine, she doesn't become sexy until she opens her mouth. Once a man has heard what a woman has to say, that's when the attraction really starts.

Make the first move girl!

Make eye contact with your guy, initiate a conversation with a compliment and use your confidence to your advantage. A confident woman is a sexy woman. Confidence shows assurance, certainty and a belief in what you have to offer.

Let your body speak for you

Without even saying a word, you can show your guy you're interested. A lighthearted touch during conversation, a playful toss of your hair at dinner, or casually crossing your legs while sitting beside him can speak volumes. Your body is your best asset, no matter the size, shape or form. The manner in which you use it is important along with the small movements you make. This allows you to use your femininity to your advantage.

Get The Man You Want

There are SO many great books available on relationships. One I recommend is a makeover book for women. Whether you have your eyes on a man; your looking or longing for love; or if you crave the sound of wedding bells. Or if you are in a relationship and wondering if it will work or if it is even worth the bother; if you are trying to get over someone that dumped you or trying to get over someone who you think is not healthy for you or makes you miserable and you just can’t let go?

The key to getting the man you want is first to know what you want and who you are. What motivates, inspires and excites you.

Take it slowly

You can't get to know someone by rushing it. These thiungs take time. So take your time so you can get comfortable enough so that you feel good about opening up.

Treat him to dinner

Nothing speaks independence like a woman who has her own money, and isn't afraid to spend it. In addition to showing your man that you are willing to give and not just receive, you separate yourself from women who are not as open-minded.

Learn to compromise

Through compromise, couples learn to accept each other's differences, experts say. No one is going to do exactly what you want them to do all of the time but you have to compromise so that you are not forcing your will on someone else.

If the shoe doesn't fit, don't force it

After a few dates and interesting conversations, you need to ask: Is he really interested? If he's a grown man and he's truly interested, you will never have to guess.

If you're still unsure experts advise to continually re-evaluate your needs and wants so that you are better prepared when the ideal man comes along. Then you have peace and purpose in your life, and when you are confident, that really shows through. Take care of yourself on the inside and the outside and let your happiness guide you to the man of your dreams. When your happy and postive - that is the type of person you will attract.

Ok so it's dating time - now what!?

Here are some tips and ideas that worked for me, to help you in preparing and making your dating experiance run the way you imagined it to.

Prepare for dating

If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide the type of person you are looking for. Do some research and be ready to commit to dating. Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way but don't take dating too seriously either.

Get your grove on

Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read women's health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself.

Give yourself a whole new look

Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not, because that will deflate your confidence. You want to feel comfortable so maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Even for busy working women there is no excuse! You can shop online and get your own new look!

Think about your dating goals and timescales

How do you see yourself within 2 years? If you see yourself married then you will need to approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.

Sort out your confidence levels

Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions.

Research your area

Work out where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking for. I know its a cliché, but my mum always told me - you will not meet people by staying home. Don't be afraid to try online dating. As long as you're careful and respectful it is a great way to meet people.

Enjoy dating

Enjoy dating for what it is. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.

Try not to make yourself too available.

People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.

While relationships come and go in our lives, we learn how they are connected to other goals. We learn to manage thoughts and emotions, diminishing those that are not useful, and empowering those that are. With this program, Enhancing Relationships, you can build and care for relationships. You will learn about growth and development, some may be familiar, but some will be very different from anything you've experienced before.

Remember to see the value of moments and how they can be improved and applied in your relationship. Make sure you check your beliefs and make changes where appropriate.

So who knows after a few dates you might find “The One” or it might take you a little longer. Just remember that it’s not always because they don’t like you, something’s just aren’t meant to be and not everyone is meant to be your knight in shining armour – otherwise we’d all be married and living happily ever after. Things take time, so enjoy yourself!

Don't forget, your boyfriend/husband/lover is supposed to be your BEST FRIEND, so treat him like it, and you won't go wrong.